“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.”–Wayne Dyer
We all would like to be successful, to accomplish and to get things done! It is a great feeling for one, it helps our own self-esteem. Of course it also helps us to get ahead and not be left behind, and it helps us to be able to support our families and be counted amongst our peers. But sometimes things can go wrong and we hit a hard time or we make the wrong decision and we fail! This can be rather discouraging.
Everyone makes mistakes and without them we would never really learn where we need to do better. They can be good for us in that sense so we can improve, and God knows room for improvement is in every household! But for some, the thought of having made a mistake is so horrifying that to admit to having made one is like death itself! So they feel the need to play the blame game! By doing so, nothing is learned and nothing is solved! The pot and the kettle remain black!
At the end of the day what truly matters is to find a solution! Who cares who it was to have made the original mistake, if you continue to dwell on this, there is no time or way to find a solution and to move on! Look at the global economical debacle and to zero in on that which is in the USA, things have not changed. Why? Because both parties are still trying to blame the other for the mistakes that have been made in the past when, sad to say, by doing so, the same mistakes are being repeated to this day!
What can be the solution? Well, the pot and the kettle are here to stay, but what needs to be changed is the fire underneath! A solution needs to be found and that is to regulate the mixture of gas and air so that the flame burns blue once again! How to get the flame blue again?, Well most certainly not by dwelling on the fact that both the pot and the kettle are black!
The same goes for personal relationships, business ventures etc. If you spend all of your time trying to pin the blame on someone instead of trying to find a working solution, you are just wasting time! Things do not get better by diverting your attention to the problems and accentuating them. They only can get better when the parties involved unitedly seek a solution for the betterment of the couple, nation or company!
So, put down your fingers, and pull up your sleeves and get to work! There is so much that can be done! I am really interested to hear from YOU! What are your thoughts on this matter?