We Are Masters Of Our Own Fate

Men are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds.–Franklin D. Roosevelt

So many people leave things up to “fate”, in other words they let things happen without coming to the realization that  they are the masters or designers of their own fate!  It bothers me when I hear people blame their situation on others in their lives! “well, I am this way because of my parents”, “I wouldn’t be in this situation if it weren’t for my husband/wife” etc..

Of course “life happens”, things do come about in our lives that cause us to make decisions and sometimes they are not easy decisions at that.  But usually the things that do “happen to us” are in direct response to decisions that we have made in the past.  It is important to realize that to every action there is a reaction and we will attract to ourselves the results that we ourselves have put into motion (or may not have put into motion).

It is all too convenient to blame others for the situations that we find ourselves in when all along we have a great deal to do with the predicament that we find ourselves in. We all want to be “right” or at least “righer” than the next guy and it helps us to convince ourselves that we are just a tad bit better than anyone else and of course we don’t deserve what we have gotten ourselves into.  But really, if you want things to get better, then it would be best to grab a hold of the helm and steer the ship in a different direction, or at least away from the rocks!

If you sit around and cry in your soup about your lot in life, well think about this.  Imagine you were raised in an abusive home, you are a black American in Tennessee and a female at that!  You could deduct that you are so unfortunate and that there simply is no hope for you and your “fate” is surely sealed and decided at birth, you will have a terrible life ahead of you! Well, I just described to you Oprah Winfrey!  One of  the most, if not the most successful women in America! She didn’t just sit back and accept her “fate” to decide for her, she took ahold of the helm and steered her ship into the deep and exciting waters where there are no limits to what she can do!

So don’t allow your mind to talk you into defeat! You were born to succeed regardless of your circumstances! It is up to you to steer your ship in the right direction, so take a hold of the helm!


10 Replies to “We Are Masters Of Our Own Fate”

  1. You got that right Rusty – you can’t blame everyone else for your predicaments. If even if circumstances cause them you can still change it. Great point.

    1. Hi Lisa, I had been hearing different people complain about their situations lately and it seemed as though the thread of each argument was trying to place blame on others. This got me on this topic since I am sure that I too may have been better of in some ways had I done things differently and I couldn’t really think of anyone to “blame” but myself! I admire those who, despite their difficulties have proven that it really doesn’t matter where you are coming from, as long as you put your heart into something, you can overcome! Thank you for your comment Lisa, take care!

  2. I totally agree with you; people don’t seem to understand accountability much these days. It annoys me when my children don’t take accountability for things…but at least they’re only 10, 12, and 13 so there’s still time for them to learn. But when you see that behavior in adults, it’s really disturbing.

    1. Whilst a person is still not accountable or of age, I can understand how they may feel that things are not right since as parents we are responsible for them until they can fin for themselves. (Of course teenagers make great judges regardless) But I am with you on adults who attempt to justify their inadequacies by tossing the blame on others, it sends me a strong message that perhaps I need to place my trust in another! Thank you Rhia! I really appreciate your thoughts and comments!

    2. Rusty/Lisa,

      You know, sometimes it’s cathartic to complain about our situations and circumstances — even if we lightly blame others for a moment, but inside the heart of hearts — we know that the situation really isn’t the fault of the others even if they took an active part in causing it. It all comes down to you and me to rise above any challenge and set back.

      You know: Every man dies, but not every man truly lives.

      Let’s LIVE.

      1. Yes! Let’s live on! The last point you mention here reminds me of a sad reality with some: Died at 20 buried at 80. In other words, stopped really fighting or rising above things at 20, but the flesh lived on until 80! It would be better to live the whole way through and to certainly not waste time complaining on the way through! Take care Samantha! Love your work!

  3. As I was reading this Rusty I was thinking of my aunt. She’s 83 years old and still blames her mother for everything. We get so sick and tired of hearing it because she’s been bitching about how unfair her mother was to her and she never loved her as much as the other kids and on and on and on.

    I’ve also had many conversations with friends about this very topic as well. Sure, you may not know what you’re going to do or how you’ll do it but if you keep the faith and know you can, it will come to you some way, some how.

    Fabulous lesson everyone should learn. You are in control of your life, no one else so it’s up to you to decide how you want to live it.

    Welcome home!

    1. Wow that is so amazing, and yet I have seen this in the lives of so many who have just not accepted the responsibility in their own lives for the situations that they currently find themselves in. To every action, there is a reaction and we have the opportunity to react in such away so as to move on with our lives and do more than what others or even we ourselves could ever imagine! Thank you Adrienne as always it is a pleasure to have you come by!

  4. Hi Rusty! Your post speaks directly to the truth written on the hearts of all humans. The problem is that our entitlement culture and a moral relevance obsessed public have caused many people to believe the lie of victimhood.

    This lie-become-truth has crippled the hearts and potential for success of its community of believers. Yes, outside forces do influence our progress at time — sometimes by no fault of our own. That’s life, people. Get over it. Get up. Keep moving despite the haters, despite your bad choices, despite the bitterness and snares laid by others.

    That’s what I get from this fantastic post!

    1. Wow, well put Samantha! It is already not easy to get on with our lives, and there are many things that happen to us, situations that do tend to make it even a more difficult journey! But it has a lot to do with our ability to rise above and keep moving not allowing anything to get in our way! Thank you so much Samantha for your inspiring comment!

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