Long Lasting Love!

“Lord, make me an instrument of your peace; where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; and where there is sadness, joy” Saint Francis of Assisi

Gosh, I think we all feel the need to be loved and would like for our passion and love to live on for eternity!  We would hope that others would just accept us for who we are and love us despite our weaknesses and failures!  The question is, do we do to others as we would like others to do to us?  Or do expect others  to do unto us, even though we do not do so ourselves.

We tend to have a high standard of expectation towards others, but tend to forget that the road to get there is a two-way road and not one way only!  I have heard it said many times over how wonderful a dog is, man’s best friend!  You can forget to feed him, he loves you the same, you can correct him for something harshly, he loves you the same.   Humans can be so much more critical and judgmental and have very long memories.  You make a wrong step with another human being and boom you are literally in the dog house, and not for just the day!

Love is an interesting thing, we all want it unconditionally but we deal it out with many conditions!  But is this how we really believe and expect to get it back? Of course not!  So, in order to have real, long-lasting love, we need to abide by the same rule book we hold over the heads of those we pretend it from!  Let’s name a few of these points.

1) Forgiveness, do we seek to forgive those who have wronged us?  Do we take the time to talk things over and attempt to understand how they may have strayed, shared our hearts together to see how we can avoid this from ever happening again in the future?  It is important to learn the importance of forgiveness, after all, we are all imperfect and fail and most unfortunately need to be forgiven ourselves for the many blunder that we make as well.  No one is perfect, not even you, believe it or not!

2) Patience.  Do you have the necessary patience to put up with certain things that bother you about your other half?  Do they snore at night, leave their laundry on the floor, discard a dish or cup without cleaning it.  Do they take forever to get in the car when you are late for an appointment, do they wait for the very last-minute to complete a task.  Are you able to bear with this weakness, and express your loving concern for their lacks, even if this means repeating it almost daily…in love?

3) Humility. Are you able to humble yourself when you know that you have transgressed in any of the above mentioned “transgressions” and have you asked for forgiveness?  Saying that you are sorry for your past or present mistakes can break down many barriers!  Try to take the “lower seat” in an argument, you will be amazed at what love and trust you will gain!

The road to long-lasting love is…well…long!  So you need to understand that it will take a lot of work.  It is not something that you just snap your fingers and it happens or rub a lamp and a Genie will appear with a magic solution.  It takes that horrible four letter word called w.o.r.k.! Yep, effort, but one that is well worth it and so rewarding!  It is all too easy to just give up, and sad to say that is what so many tend to do.  Well, if it is not going my way then forget it!  How selfish!  The road to success is one of great sacrifice!  Everything that is worth anything cost something!

Have you experienced the tough road and found it to be extremely rewarding?  Let us know what you think!

Murphy’s Law at Work!

You never run out of things that can go wrong. –Murphy

You have most likely heard of and been a victim of the Murphy’s laws .  You know,  all of the typical scenarios such as…when you are late for an appointment then literally ALL of the traffic lights will be red along your route.  You are waiting for a very important phone call, you are nowhere near home and your cell phone’s battery gives out! The list is endless of things that tend to go wrong just at the right time!  They are enough to test your religion!

I am currently here in Italy and during the month of August, the world literally stops rotating!  Everyone has to take their vacation all at once. If you need to get anything done or taken care of, you have to plan way ahead before you get to the month of August, because chanced are, if there is anything that you need during that month such as repairs, specialty items for your business, well you just will have to wait till September!

I work at a Motorbike and Karting race track as a manager and marketing manager.  We don’t close in August, in fact it hardly ever closes except for Christmas day! In one week alone, anything that could go wrong did! The faithful all-reliable Fax-scanner-printer burned a circuit board and was out-of-order! The cash register stopped sending off the daily reports due to a glitch in the program, the internet went down (just for a day) right when there was a lot of work to be done online. We print tickets on special adhesive stickers and they ran out (human error as it was not communicated that they were almost out) nonetheless, August is not the month to forget that such items are impossible to order.   The brakes on my car went out, and one of the headlights burned out.

I am not sure, I may be leaving something out here, but suffice it say it has been a testy month and Murphy’s laws have been proven to be in fully functioning order!  After you go through a period of time in which you experience this type of thing, you can look back and have a laugh at what really was not so seemingly funny at all at the time!

But like all things, we can be thankful that it is not always like this.  Some people are full of natural grace in these circumstances, and others totally lose it bringing upon themselves even greater stress and frustration.

I was reading a book by Jim Rohn where he depicts this type of situation and he sad, well it is a time when you just have to say “isn’t that interesting”.  Unfortunately I have failed the test on a number of occasions, but I can say that getting all bent out of shape has never solved any of the problems, in fact it tends to aggravate things even more and cause yet other problems.

So I had a very interesting month indeed!  Have you experienced anything like this.  If so please take the time to share it with the readers here.  It helps to have a laugh at an otherwise serious situation!