Sharing The Luv!–Some Lessons Learned

Hello dear friends!  Isn’t it wonderful to have the Internet and the capability of making friends on every corner of the globe.  I haven’t even been blogging all that long, but I have been very happy and have enjoyed making so many new friends through this wonderful experience!  I have been learning a lot from many of my special friends through their experience and expertise who have learned through trial and error no doubt!

I have just changed my theme and layout once again as I too have been learning through trial and error.  For one, as a dear friend of mine Adrienne Smith had brought out in a recent post that she wrote, “Why Free Information Is Sometimes More Expensive” it is a fact that you can find some real “expensive bargains” out there that will end up costing you more money and/or time! This has proven true with my previous Theme which liked very much but it had some serious programming issues and would not allow me to be “visitor friendly” and allow you my dear friends the possibility to share your valuable input with my favorite plugin “Commentluv Premium”  So I decided to pull out my wallet and purchase a Theme that would allow greater possibility to my visitors to get traffic directed to your sites by enabling the unleashing of the poser of this one plugin.  If you are using WordPress, then you should definitely get it

As we go forward, whether we like it or not, a great part of business, relationships both business and romantic/friendship is taking place online.  It is important that we “share the wealth” so to speak and help each other out as in doing so we add richness to ourselves as well as others. As a community we can all help each other to grow! This is truly a great way to “share the luv!”

I am going to attempt to acknowledge some people here and share with you a few great people who have made a difference in my life so that you too can get to know them and hopefully learn from them as well.  I hate doing this as I am sure that I might forget someone, but here I go.

As mentioned already above, Adrienne Smith has a great site that is well worth you saving the feed for or signing up to!  A fellow Texan and down to earth woman who is as helpful and insightful as they come.  She is also fun to follow as she says is like it is!  Lisa Buben is a wonderful friend who is an expert as well to find those interesting little tidbits on her journey online and she shares them in her posts! Louise Hernan has a site with amazing poems that she writes on a number of topics.  They are simple but so amazing to read as they hit the “nail on the head” in each topic, if you like poetry you will enjoy her site! Sonia Winland has a great site on online marketing.  Sonia was one of the first friends I met on bloggers who was a great help to me in my humble beginnings.  A great site to get some pointers from! Ian Ieba in the UK is a great guy who took an online course and has been sharing some great tips through his experience with everyone, someone who shares the luv! There is another great guy who has a great amount of helpful tips and lessons on blogging that is well worth you time and that is Barry Wells.  Looking to read on relationships?  Go check out Anne-Lyken Garner as she has some very interesting articles on relationship!

These are but a few, but some of the main ones I have found to be great people to get to know!  I am sharing the luv with you today! And a very special mention of Andy Baily who bent over backwards taking time out of his busy schedule to make sure his plugin, commentluv premium, worked on my site.  That is the kind of person I delight in doing business with and who I trust!

The list would be truly long if I were to acknowledge everyone that has made their mark on me in the little time I have been blogging, but it is a start!  Thank you of course to BlogCatalog.com, Bloggers.com and Paperblog.com who offer a tremendous service in promoting blogs!  I know Tony Berkman works long hours to promote his blogs on BlogCatalog and takes a very personal interest!

Thank you dear friends, I really appreciate you and all that you have been doing for me, for your friendship and for your input that enriches my life!

So, share the luv!  That is what it is all about! Don’t you agree?

Facetime Vs. Facebook

Social media sites, chat, online social sites in general have taken the world by storm and have been a wonderful addition to our life and life style.  I for one, having lived abroad for most of my life and distant from loved ones appreciate the possibility to stay in touch and share news, pictures, video, and to have a less expensive alternative to communicate more freely and regularly with my loved ones at home.  But with every great new invention, there are some definite set backs through overuse by spending too much time or having a false balance in your lifestyle, it can cause irreparable damage, so beware!

While it a great tool that we can use to keep in touch with our distant loved ones, make new friends, share ideas, pics and videos, it could be the very thing that is robbing of us of one of the most important things that we have and that is of most valuable to those around us…our time.

I have personally witnessed and heard many a story of how social media has been the cause of break-ups of couples and families due to it coming between the people involved.  Persons who have lost total contact with the real world due to their over-presence in the virtual world.  Some who have thought to have found their soul mate online (some do but not always the case) leaving behind their husband, wife or kids for another whom they think they know. The same goes for computer games that can be perfectly fine and fun, when not taken to the extreme such as in the case that a father or a mother, a wife or a husband are so into the addiction of playing to the neglect of those who need them now.

Then there is the debate as to how a company can not hire you or fire you due to content that you have put out into cyber space.  This may be unfair in some instances where you may post one or two pictures with a can of beer in your hand and all hell breaks loose at you workplace, but when 95% of your pictures share your party time and boozing it up, well it might be a concern to me as well.

Life is way too short to allow it to be fettered away on long distance relationships, and this is true mainly for those who may be depending on you here and now.  The training of a child while it is still in its tender years are the VERY most important as that time is when his/her personality is being developed and his/her sense of security is all important.  If you miss that, unfortunately there is no turning back the clock. Already adolescence is tough, but just wait until that neglected tot grows up! Your mate may not wait around so long for you if most of your time (love) is spent with others.

Any addiction is a prison! I once heard a story of the prison inmate who passed away after having spent the better part of his life behind bars that when they went into his cell to collect the few items left behind, there on the wall written hundreds of times were some of the saddest words in the English language, “If I only had, If I only had, If I only had”.

Use your time wisely, use these wonderful new and great tools of technology, just don’t allow them to use you lest you too may be heard saying… “If I only had.”

Time-our most precious commodity!

It is amazing how we go on in life, we live it as if it is going to last forever!  The way we spend our time, treat our loved ones, go about our business both at home at work. Time is indeed our most precious commodity, and the way we spend it and with whom should give us an indication on what we consider most important in our lives.

I had been thinking of “some day” sitting down and writing up a few stories and memories of my life.  I don’t consider myself to be a writer, and that said, I have used this as the main excuse to put it off.  But one day, I won’t be around anymore and it would be a shame if my kids or grand kids didn’t get a chance to get to know me or share my experiences.  I have vague memories of my grandfather as he passed away when I was still quite young.  There are those special moments that come to mind when I reflect on the brief period of my life that he was still here with us.  He was a very active business man and I am sure that I could have learned so much from him.  Unfortunately when we are young we don’t appreciate the time that we do have with our parents and grand parents, we take life so much for granted, besides we are busy growing up and facing our own set of challenges.  But it is a shame that we rarely see the importance of living life to the full extent and taking full advantage of those times we have special people who could play more of an integral role in our growth.

I remember hearing a song years ago that shares this very principle, it touched my heart and made me see how I need to do what I can to spend more time with the ones dear to me..it’s called:

“Cat’s In The Cradle” by Harry Chapin

My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talkin’ ‘fore I knew it, and as he grew
He’d say “I’m gonna be like you dad
You know I’m gonna be like you”

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home dad?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then son
You know we’ll have a good time then

My son turned ten just the other day
He said, “Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on let’s play
Can you teach me to throw”, I said “Not today
I got a lot to do”, he said, “That’s ok”
And he walked away but his smile never dimmed
And said, “I’m gonna be like him, yeah
You know I’m gonna be like him”

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home son?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then son
You know we’ll have a good time then

Well, he came home from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
“Son, I’m proud of you, can you sit for a while?”
He shook his head and said with a smile
“What I’d really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please?”

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home son?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then son
You know we’ll have a good time then

I’ve long since retired, my son’s moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, “I’d like to see you if you don’t mind”
He said, “I’d love to, Dad, if I can find the time
You see my new job’s a hassle and kids have the flu
But it’s sure nice talking to you, Dad
It’s been sure nice talking to you”

And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He’d grown up just like me
My boy was just like me

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home son?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then son
You know we’ll have a good time then

Cat’s In The Cradle–Sung by Harry Chapin