Finding a Balance

“Balance, peace, and joy are the fruit of a successful life. It starts with recognizing your talents and finding ways to serve others by using them”. —Thomas Kinkade

There really should be more hours in a day!  I heard someone say, perhaps you have heard it as well that, “life is like a suitcase, some people are able to pack more into it” and I find this to so true!  There is and always will be so much that we need to get done that truly it would be cool if we were able to have a little extension permit to the day!  But the fact of the matter is, there is more to life than “getting all those things done” that is just as important and in fact will help us to be even more productive.

I heard it shared like this: Eat right, exercise right, work right, play right, love right, this is the formula for success.  And this is so true!  There are a few things that we absolutely cannot go without and they are eating and sleeping.  If you try to do away with those two activities you will be good for nothing else.  And even those activities need to be done right in order to maintain a balance in your life.  You do also need some “off time” to just let your hair down and relax and have some play time, all work and no play makes a very dull person in general.  And love right, yes inter-personal relations is all important, time to love and share moments together with others brings richness to your life and that of those around you!

Let’s break this down:

Eat right: Stop and take the time to eat a good balanced meal at the proper times during the day!  This does wonders to give you energy, try to avoid over eating in the middle of the day as this will cause you to lose concentration and will lessen your productivity during your working hours!

Exercise right: A few stretches everyday to get your body ready for the day, and take at least 3 days out of the week to have a real thorough work out in order to stay fit and healthy!  I just started up at a gym recently and have been amazed at how much more energy I have.

Work right: Did you know that the day actually starts the night before?  That’s right!  Plan your next day out so that you can make the best of it!  Make your schedule the night before and stick to it as much as is possible.  There are times that you will have an emergency to tend to, or things will not work out just as you planned but you can always work around that.  This will help reduce stress, raise productivity and make you feel good about yourself!

Play right: Yep, play is important, don’t take life too seriously, get some “off time” with your spouse, children or friends and do something fun together.  Get your mind off of your work for a bit so that once you have to get back to work, you will be refreshed, re-envisioned and renewed!  The person that you spend time with needs it too, and relationship will also be strengthened!

Love right: Yes, love plays a very important role as well.  Time with your family, and in particular your spouse! This can be simply enjoying a relaxed moment to share your heart together or a time to have a good love up time and some good sex (if available)!  Yes I did say sex and I think that now I will get 1000 hits more a day on my site! But having good sex is not only enjoyable, it is a necessity in life and God-given gift.  It certainly helps to reduce stress, so make sure you include this as well.

This is a pretty simple list, and to include all of this in your life will help you to bring a better balance and perspective to your life.  There is always a balance even in these different activities, too much of anything can be harmful, we are all different and our personal needs are also different so you will have to decide how much of what is best suited for you!

Do you have a balanced lifestyle?  From 1-10 how would you rate your ability to fill your “suitcase”?

Why Work Hard?

“Hard work spotlights the character of people:  some turn up their sleeves, some turn up their noses, and some don’t turn up at all.”  ~Sam Ewing

Today more than ever is it important to be dedicated at the work place.  We are on hard times and jobs are coming difficult to come by so companies are studying ways to do more with less.  Sad to say, but that is the reality of things when times are tough… jobs get cut.  And who do you suppose might get the cut?

I am a firm believer in the philosophy of the  dear late Jim Rohn who has said over and over after being passed on down by his father who said: “always do more than what you are paid to do”!  This is an amazing concept that is hard for many to get their heads around but if you follow it, great things can happen!

Most people’s attitude is, man, not as soon as the clock strikes 5 I am gonna get out of this place”.  And they carry that thought from about 9:15am.  What you might not realize is, everyone else around you can feel the vibes, the customers, your co-workers, and your boss.  “Why should I care about that” you might be thinking.  I’ll tell you why, 1) attitude is contagious, and unfortunately negative attitudes are more contagious than the flu.  Therefore your attitude will transmit to your co-worker’s as he will then say to himself, well if John feels this way then I shouldn’t bust my back either. 2) The customers begin to feel it, 3) when the customers feel your negative attitude or “who cares” vibes they begin to feel neglected and think that maybe they should go elsewhere. 4) when the consumer begins to go elsewhere your company suffers, your job load is reduced, and guess who is considered for a cut.  Yep, I think you may be getting the picture, and when you start looking around for another place to work…. it ain’t easy!

I worked in Taiwan for a company that produces computer components as an Account Manager.  I was used to clocking in at a certain hours and clocking out at 5pm, to me this was normal.  I began to feel a bit funny when 5 o’clock rolled around and I was the only person who was getting out of my little cubicle to start heading for the door when everyone else just stayed put! So I asked my colleague who I worked with why it was that no one else was going since it was “time to go”.  He explained to me that in their culture (Chinese) that you are considered lazy if you leave before the boss left his office!” (The guy never seemed to leave his office!) I do believe that a balance is necessary between the east and west, but boy was I given a wake up call as this was definitely not how I had been taught from where I came from! I touched on the difference between east and west in another blog post that you can read here.

I am not saying that this should be the case, but what I would like to share here is that, anything worth doing is worth doing with all of your heart.  Since the better part of your day is spent at work rather than with your family, it would be in your highest interest to put your whole heart body and soul into it, especially since most likely your job will also benefit your family. You have to find a joy in the things you do!  If this simply is not possible because you hate your job, consider looking for another job where you can, if your able to even find one.  Than again, it really doesn’t matter what job you do, anything can get boring after you do it for a long while so be careful not to be led by the nose by your fickle emotions!

Then, once you have finished your work, done what you can to raise the spirit in your work environment through your positive input, put your whole heart into your relaxation, time with your loved one or ones!  What ever you do, do it with all of your heart! That is also the secret to your own happiness and well-being!

Why is the West Degressing?

Having lived in various countries in the world at different times of my life, I have made it a habit to study people. I very much enjoy learning the local customs, tasting the local cuisine. I have found that, although people in different parts of the world vary in their architecture, habits, mannerisms and religion, they are still people with very much the same inner desires. We all need to  love and to be loved, to be appreciated. Most people want to belong to a family or be a part of a group of friends, those who have a family want the very best for their children.

With all the “globalization” and open market that has been taking place around the world it is interesting to note a shift that has been occurring in the wealth and success of certain nations. I recently read and article in which it brought out, in my opinion a very valid point as to why this might be happening. I will share this from own personal perspective.

In the west, and I speak of the United States and Europe in particular, we have grown up in affluent societies since after the great depression. Each generation has, up until most recently, enjoyed a rather comfortable lifestyle. We have raised our children for the most part with everything that they might need (and even want). While growing up, in the 50’s and 60’s in the US the economy was mostly on the up and up, those who had endured the hardships of the World War and the great depression had gone through a great period of austerity and they had to just be happy with what they had, and they were.    I was happy perfectly to have a ball or a bike and friends to play with. History tends to repeat itself, and whenever there is a generation that has had to fight, bleed and sometimes die for what they have, or endure financial hardships, it helps them to grow stronger.

One might think that providing everything that your children need and much also of what they want, all of the time is their responsibility as a parent. The youth of the west have grown up with most of what they want without much sacrifice on their part. They didn’t have to personally strive for it, it was handed to them on a “silver platter”, they inherited it you might say. This is, in my opinion, the beginning of the destruction of the generation that follows. If you get children or people used to things being given to them at their slightest whim, they will continue to expect that to be the case for the rest of their lives. Unfortunately however, this is not at all how life treats us. We are here on earth to think for ourselves, take on what life throws at us, and learn to deal with it. If life has been a nice cushion ride since birth, we may never grow strong enough to deal with relationships, work, business, and all that comes with growing up, solving problems along life’s arduous path. In today’s world child discipline has been abandoned to such a degree that a child now grows up with a great handicap since he or she has no idea of what is right or wrong.

The labor of learning to fly!

The butterfly at first is a little caterpillar which at a certain point begins to build itself a cocoon where it will remain for a determined amount of time as it morphs into a beautiful colorful butterfly. Before it can fly however, it must work its way out of the cocoon. If you were to take a pair of scissors and cut the cocoon open to facilitate the butterfly, thinking to do it a great favor by making it easier for it to be released, you have just broken a great law of nature!  Should the butterfly not labor its way out of the cocoon, the necessary liquid that is needed to be passed to its wings to strengthen them to the point of being able to fly will not be passed on.  The butterfly will fall to the ground and be unable to take flight.  That is what happens to our next generation when we try to make it easy on them.  We are robing them of the natural metamorphosis of maturation!

Now let’s take a look at the East and in particular nations such as India, China, Vietnam.  These nations have been for many years “developing countries”, and now they are starting to become great super powers!  Why is this?  The youth that has grown up without as much as their necessities have been “blessed” with seeing the need to fight for what they want!  They are not expecting it to come to them from mom and dad, or from a wealthy uncle.  They are not waiting for their government to had them a tax break, or yet more social benefits.  They are rolling up their sleeves and applying themselves to create something from the nothing that they had!  They are tired of having nothing and are determined to do something about it!

So wake up west! We are going to be left way behind if we keep up the way we are going, depriving our younger generation this “gift” of struggling out of their cocoon!  We need to get back to the basics of following the path that nature has given us as a road map! This is the way to prosperity, not bearing arms to “take it back”.  If you don’t work hard for something, your really don’t deserve it!  So I believe it is time to stop whining and to get back to the basic principal of the great struggle of nature, the natural way!

I am all for technological advancements, computers cell phones, and even computer games for a little time to unwind.  But all of these commodities are meant to be tools and can be greatly useful.  The secret is to use these tools, but to be careful that the tools don’t use us!